Stevie

I had another conversation yesterday with my friend who I'll call Stevie. Stevie is young, pretty, tall and very sweet. She is very attractive but often complains of how to meet boys. In fact, she is either complaining about how her current boyfriend is a jerk, or how she can't seem to meet any good guys. This isn't new. Many of my friends have the same lament.

What I noticed yesterday was that Stevie really doesn't want to change her plight. Whenever I would make suggestions for her to try, she would dismiss them, or change the subject, or say ok, but not do anything about it. I am confused... why would a person continue to complain about the same thing over and over again, but not really want to do anything about it? I am tempted to tell her to just shut up about it, unless she actually wants to take some action.

Why do people love to complain but not make any changes?

If you know, please help me understand

Thanks