My friend, who I'll call Ray Ray broke up with her boy friend this week. She found out he'd been lying about how many times he'd been married before. At first this could be a case of him not being up front about this so he doesn't scare her off. That is somewhat plausible. But his response at being found out was what I found particularly troubling. When confronted with the truth, his response was, "This is your fault because you bad mouth your ex so much that I didn't want to tell you, and you should have investigated me before getting involved!"
To me, this is a huge red flag and my friend should dump him immediately and move on. The lying is troubling but maybe not a deal breaker. What is the huge red flag is that his reaction of blaming her for this. No wonder this guy has been married 3 times already at a young age - he obviously hasn't grown up. Blaming others is what teenagers do.
Another interesting development is a conversation we had - Ray Ray, myself and 2 of her girlfriends. Her girlfriends initial reaction was to hear him out. Maybe there was a reason for this. Maybe Ray Ray is being too hard on him. After all, a good man is hard to find...
What a crock. No wonder so many women get walked on when they think like that.
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