Date Watch

My friend, who I'll call Ray Ray broke up with her boy friend this week. She found out he'd been lying about how many times he'd been married before. At first this could be a case of him not being up front about this so he doesn't scare her off. That is somewhat plausible. But his response at being found out was what I found particularly troubling. When confronted with the truth, his response was, "This is your fault because you bad mouth your ex so much that I didn't want to tell you, and you should have investigated me before getting involved!"

To me, this is a huge red flag and my friend should dump him immediately and move on. The lying is troubling but maybe not a deal breaker. What is the huge red flag is that his reaction of blaming her for this. No wonder this guy has been married 3 times already at a young age - he obviously hasn't grown up. Blaming others is what teenagers do.

Another interesting development is a conversation we had - Ray Ray, myself and 2 of her girlfriends. Her girlfriends initial reaction was to hear him out. Maybe there was a reason for this. Maybe Ray Ray is being too hard on him. After all, a good man is hard to find...

What a crock. No wonder so many women get walked on when they think like that.

Stevie

I had another conversation yesterday with my friend who I'll call Stevie. Stevie is young, pretty, tall and very sweet. She is very attractive but often complains of how to meet boys. In fact, she is either complaining about how her current boyfriend is a jerk, or how she can't seem to meet any good guys. This isn't new. Many of my friends have the same lament.

What I noticed yesterday was that Stevie really doesn't want to change her plight. Whenever I would make suggestions for her to try, she would dismiss them, or change the subject, or say ok, but not do anything about it. I am confused... why would a person continue to complain about the same thing over and over again, but not really want to do anything about it? I am tempted to tell her to just shut up about it, unless she actually wants to take some action.

Why do people love to complain but not make any changes?

If you know, please help me understand

Thanks

The Dating MBA

What's a dating mba? Someone who has an MBA who dates? Yes, but that's not what this is about. This is about an MBA-like program for those who date.

The Dating MBA takes a strategic business approach to dating. Not hit or miss 'Tips' or 'Secrets to Dating'... But a straightforward, pragmatic, testable approach to dating.

Imagine that.... A systematic, thorough approach to the age old problem, "How do I find The One"...

Stay tuned. much more to come.